President's Column - October 2020

The Jewish New Year is here and I thought maybe it was time to try something new. That is, I thought it was time to ask you to try something new.

In the secular new year we make all kinds of resolutions of what we are going to do in the upcoming year to make a change for the better. Often times we find we have a hard time following through on our goals. In this Jewish new year, why not make one resolution you can keep – make a resolution to try one new thing out at TBT.

What to try? There are all kinds of programs going on now, and for most of them, you only need to click on the Zoom link to be there. Want to participate in some insightful discussions? Come to Torah study, which you can find every Saturday at 9:00 AM or join the TBT Book Club for the October book of Button Man by Andrew Gross. Need some time to relax and focus? Try Jewish Mindfulness and Meditation every first and third Saturday of the month at 8:00 AM. Want to work on racial justice and getting out the vote? Come and see what the Social Justice Committee is doing at their meeting on October 1 at 7:30 PM on Zoom.

There is such a variety of programs, committees, services and activities going on, even during this time of being at home during COVID and the building renovation. I think for many of us, we feel that certain programs at TBT aren’t for us, simply because we’ve never tried them.

I can promise you that if you force yourself to try just one new committee/program/group in the month of October, the people you join are going to be thrilled to see you. I also promise you that no experience is necessary. If you are unsure how to join, e-mail me directly at sarahmervine@gmail.com and I will get you on your way (I might even be convinced to go with you). It is just that easy. Let this new year be one where we come together as often as we can to enjoy one another’s company and continue the good work at TBT.

Hope to see you soon!
Sarah

Rabbi's Column - October 2020

As we turn from the month of September and the High Holy Days and anticipate the month of October and the autumnal holidays of Sukkot and Simchat Torah, I want to pause for just a moment to dwell – not in the Sukkah just yet – but in the experience of Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur. Yes it was virtual. Yes it was digital. Yes it was surreal --- but the most important experience of all was that it was real. We came together as a community and honored our holy days. We touched each other’s lives. We were inspired by the Cantor’s singing and all who participated. I am choosing not to name names right now for there are far too many and I fear risking a miss, but we are all richer because of those who participated in so many ways.

We were uplifted by the shofar services, the L’Dor vaDor, the Choir, the piano, the messages, the chatbox!, the break-out groups, the Torah readers, the Haftarah readers, the Bar and Bat Mitzvah kids, the Oseh Shalom, being in our sanctuary, getting glimpses of all those home sanctuaries, seeing all those prayerbooks in your homes, our Temple President and our Temple Presidents, and oh-my-goodness all the behind-the-scenes planning by so many, including our Tech Team and our Religious Activities Committee. The list goes on and on and the sentiments run deep. In fact – don’t take it from me – let me share some of the voices of those who logged in:

“I wanted to say how beautiful the services were: at once moving, comforting and inspiring.”

“The services were wonderful! And meaningful! Thank you!”

“Everything was not only seamless but it was joyful, spiritual, heartfelt and true to our community’s values.”

And this from Molly Babbin whose sermonette inspired us all: “I wanted to say thank you for giving me the opportunity to give a sermonette at Rosh Hashana services. It is wonderful to stay connected to TBT no matter where I am living.”

“We absolutely loved the service and your sermon was an inspiration.”

“Everything went off like clockwork. It was very obvious that a lot of planning and work went into this service. Well done!”

“By far the most inspiring hours we’ve had via Zoom. Outstanding!”

“Thank you for reminding us that to have hope is a gift - and a necessity.”

I myself think back to our holidays and the overwhelming feeling I get is the sensation of your presence, our presence, our togetherness, our being. Thank you, for being the awesome congregation that you are.

Now: onward. Sukkot and Simchat Torah await. To chagim smaychim – to joyful festivals for us all,
Rabbi Stacy K. Offner

President's Column - September 2020

At a time when many are feeling uncertain about what the future brings and are putting plans in place to make it through the next few months, we at TBT are doing something almost unheard of at this time: we are building for the future. That’s right – we’ve begun the enormous and exciting task of renovating our building! At the same time that we plan to keep our community together and safe, we are looking to a future where our building will be totally accessible, full of light and sound, secure, and with plenty of space for our members to worship, learn and create all kinds of community programs.

We don’t take on this important task lightly. We have been planning this work for years. And while it never seems like the exact right time for such a momentous undertaking, the building itself has let us know the time is now, as its systems are slowly failing and some of the structure is badly in need of repair.

While taking on this project is a challenge, it is by no means unprecedented here at TBT. Forty plus years ago, the founders of TBT took a risk to build our first synagogue with the hope that it would be a home for Jewish life on the Shoreline. And now here we are, almost 300 families strong.

As we look to a sweet new year and hope that many of the challenges we are facing today will be met and conquered in the year ahead, we at TBT can look to what we are actively building – both literally and figuratively—and look forward to next year in our own redone space that will welcome us and future generations for years to come.

Shana Tovah.
Sarah Mervine

Rabbi's Column - September 2020

We are soon to be together to celebrate and observe Rosh HaShana and Yom Kippur. Millions of questions swirl around my head as I consider the ways to make our services as spiritually meaningful and inspirational as can be. Let me share some key points with you, as you begin to prepare and anticipate the holidays.

First: we are going to be all together. There were many different platforms we could have chosen and key for us was the value of actually coming together and seeing each other, not just seeing the bima. So we will be on ZOOM.

The next step is equally important: it must be a spiritual experience. Zoom meetings, which we have now all participated in, are not necessarily the most holy of experiences. So we decided that we must be able to experience being ‘in the sanctuary.’ Ironically, as our sanctuary undergoes significant renovation, we had not planned to be physically at TBT in any case. Long before we heard the word ‘Covid’ we knew we needed to be out of the sanctuary for the holidays. We had arranged to gather at the Guilford High School Auditorium – and to have had a ritual last service in our TBT sanctuary before departing. The Corona Virus has altered all our great plans. But now, though it will be via a virtual service, the High Holidays will give us a chance for final services in our sanctuary as we know it today. Cantor Boyle, Walter Stutzman and I spent hours in the sanctuary, with careful safety measures, so we could bring the sanctuary into your homes.

One more critical piece of making the holidays successful, and that depends on YOU. You see, we will bring our sanctuary to you, but you also have to create a sanctuary out of your own homes. That isn’t an easy task. Think about where you are and what you are wearing and what else you are doing when you are on a Zoom meeting. The High Holy Days are not a meeting. They are holy days. Please, I implore you, consider where you are when you log onto High Holiday services. Consider what you wear! Dress up! As though you were coming to shul. It will make a difference. Put flowers on the table, in your sight! For Erev Rosh Hshanah, candlesticks and kiddish wine. For Kol Nidrei, just the candles, please. Close all applications on your computer and just leave Zoom open. Maybe you can connect your computer to your tv screen and make a sanctuary out of your entire living room, not just a desktop in the corner.

Most important: think about it. Be intentional. Come to services fully prepared.

If we are all prepared for the holy days, we will create holiness, and that is something we could all use right now.

Shana Tova – may 5781 bring redemption to us all,
Rabbi Stacy K. Offner

President's Column Summer 2020

When I agreed to take on the role of President of TBT, I could not have imagined the challenges that 2020 would bring for all of us. It is a time of great difficulty for our world and our community on many fronts. And, yet, as I said at the annual meeting, I don’t think I have ever been prouder to be a member of this community and I feel increasingly hopeful as to what we will accomplish together over the next few years.

During the pandemic, TBT has offered a way to both reach out and to be reached. Through its Helping Hands program, it reached members to simply say hello and make certain all were safe and without need. Through virtual services, onegs, seders, Torah Study, Jewish Meditation and Religious School we have been able to worship together, learn together and just see one another’s faces. We have also continued the good work we always do – raising more in our online food drive than ever before, supporting our food pantries and local groups that help the larger community, and simply reacting to the news of the day and creating opportunities for reflection and learning.

The work doesn’t stop here. We will continue to build our community – both at TBT and in the world around us – no matter what the coming months bring. Future programs include exploring race relations through readings and discussions from the Social Justice Committee, a “get out the vote” initiative, intergenerational programming through the Religious School and other means, a virtual movie day with Kol Ami, and several summer outdoor in-person services.

While TBT is always involved in the work of building community described above, we will also turn our attention to literally building for our community. Soon after this Shofar is delivered we will see the first shovel hit the ground for our building renovation project. As with the work above, we need each and every one of you to be part of this exciting project and we thank you in advance for your support and dedication to our community.

While the year ahead may be one with many challenges, there is also much to be thankful for as we work towards the future. I feel confident we will face these challenges together and come out stronger, in a place that will be our Jewish home on the Shoreline for future generations.

- Sarah Mervine

Rabbi's Column Summer 2020

Our summer is anything but “light” this year. Instead of Summer Days we enter our Summer Daze. But it need not be that way and in fact, we can’t afford to be in a daze. There is too much at stake.

We are still immersed in a Pandemic even as the state of Connecticut takes measures to re-open. We are still immersed in a national revelation of ongoing racism. We, as a congregation, are celebrating the comings and goings of Cantors as we shared a beautiful goodbye with Cantor Stanton and we look forward to embracing Cantor Boyle. We have also installed a new President in Sarah Mervine, even as we are glad that we don’t have to say a literal goodbye to Jeff Babbin who now steps into the role of Immediate Past President.

We also have much to look forward to! Our “Summer Services” throughout July and August will, as is now our custom, begin at 6pm with a PreNeg and be a shortened service so you can be out-the-(proverbial)-door by 7pm. And yes – that door is still proverbial as we adhere to the highest standards of COVID-19 health guidelines.

Our Summer Services will be LIVE on Zoom (in other words, they will shift from being pre-recorded on Zoom by the service leaders to being an 'in-real-time’ experience for all participants).

We are also in the midst of planning some live OUTDOOR Shabbat Services this summer. We can look forward to having FOUR outdoor services this summer – two in July and two in August. Two will be in Madison and two will be in Guilford, and each location will have enough space for us to observe social distancing. [See separate article in this Shofar for dates, times and locations.] We are working on ways to also do a live-recording of the service so all of our TBT community can join in, those who are able to join in-person as well as those for whom being at an outdoor service is not the right choice right now. (If YOU have technological expertise in this area and know how we can live-record our outdoor service so others can view it virtually, please call me right away!!!)

As we plan for our Summer Services, I also want you to know that High Holidays are very much on our minds. This virus does not willfully discriminate, but it does seem that large physical gatherings, with singing I might add, will be the last pieces of the COVID puzzle to re-open. I can say with confidence, however, that we are very hard at work on planning a High Holiday experience that will be moving, uplifting, joyous and connecting. To help assure that goal, I invite you to share with me your answers to these questions: “What are the pieces of the High Holidays at TBT that are ‘must haves’ on your list?” and “What is the goal of the High Holidays for you?” The Torah reminds us powerfully that we are to “choose life that you may live.” Rest assured that all of our decisions are driven by this commandment.

One more important item I can’t resist mentioning: Welcome, Cantor Boyle!!! We are so excited to have you as our Cantor-Educator and to have you and Cory living here in Madison at long last! A big Mazel Tov to you both on your upcoming wedding day. All of TBT is invited to the aufruf! We will have an aufruf for Cantor & Cory at our first summer service: Friday, July 3rd at 6pm. It will be our first summer service, Cantor Boyle’s first service as TBT’s Cantor, and a great time for us all to come together in honor of this special moment in all of our lives.

To a beautiful summer,
Rabbi Offner

President's Column - June 2020

Shalom. Summer is almost here, I have my vegetable garden planted, and the warmer weather and longer days all have us hoping for better times ahead. Your leadership, both clergy and the lay board, are carefully following the health guidance from our local and state leaders. We also have created our own synagogue committee with knowledgeable congregants to guide our decisions and programming through the summer and beyond. We are all hopeful to have some limited, in-person, socially distanced outdoor services or programs this summer, and we will be guided by the experts on what is both allowed and safe.

Regardless of what form it takes, we will be welcoming Cantor Jennifer Boyle to TBT in early July as our new Cantor-Educator. Cantor Boyle will bring her energy and talent to the Bimah and to the Religious School. She already has “Zoomed” with the B’nei Mitzvah families to introduce herself and ensure continuity. The co-chairs of our search committee, Sue Groll and Loren Sterman, are now co-chairs of our transition committee. Working with our Education Co-chairs Peter Chorney and Deb Coe, they will ensure a seamless hand-off from Cantor Stanton to Cantor Boyle. Please also calendar Friday, June 12 at 7:15 p.m. for a live, Zoom Shabbat service where we will say good-bye to Cantor Stanton and celebrate all that he gave to this community in the last two years.

This column is also my good-bye column as TBT President. But I’m not really going anywhere. After three years as President, I am transitioning to Immediate Past President, so I will continue to serve on the Executive Committee and Board and look forward to working with your new President, Sarah Mervine, in the next couple of years. It has been an honor and pleasure to be TBT’s President, to meet so many more of you and really experience the love this congregation has for TBT. It has also been an honor and pleasure to work closely with the clergy, staff, and all of the lay leaders on TBT’s Board and committees. TBT has a bright future, and I look forward to seeing it all unfold.

As they say in Israel, l’hitraot. See you again soon.
Jeff Babbin

Rabbi's Column - June 2020

Note: These remarks were offered by Rabbi Offner at the Annual Meeting on May 14th:

The agenda for the Annual Meeting calls upon me to offer a “Review of the Year.” How does one offer a review of the year when just the past eight weeks already feel like a century? Time is funny that way, and no more so than during a pandemic. So as I reflect on this past year, I reflect most significantly on how a synagogue like ours, a synagogue that at its very heart is about bringing people together, how we made a pivot eight weeks ago, and how in a matter of hours we took everything that is precious to us – our prayers, our learning, our Torah, our life cycles and our social justice work – and we put it all on line and we turned our entire synagogue into a virtual reality.

Consider those two words: ‘virtual’ and ‘reality’. They used to be opposites. If it was virtual, it wasn’t real. Today those words are synonyms. We focus a lot of our efforts on the ‘virtual’ part, as those of us who barely knew how to save a word document, are all of a sudden faced with the need to navigate through the day with Zoom and Google Classroom and Facebook Live. Everything is now virtual. But ‘reality’ is another important word, because though it is now via technology, we are still coming together and we have created something very real. Synagogue life has not stopped, not for one second. If anything, we are more connected, more profoundly connected, as this pandemic has made all our religious language about life and death more acute and more manifest.

In just 2 short months we managed to put all of our Shabbat services on line. We have live onegs on line. We had a Passover Seder and Passover Meals and even hosted special guest speakers at our Shabbat services. We have an engaging Torah study every week on line. We even have Jewish Meditation on line.

We also have an emergency connection network at our synagogue right now that we lovingly call “Helping Hands,” so that every single member of our congregation has a contact person who can initiate delivery of groceries, a chat to mitigate against lonliness, delivery of masks and navigation of social services.

And yes, the cycle of life continues. I have conducted baby namings on line, and I have wept with mourners at shiva services, on line.

None of this could happen without the extraordinary dedication and service of our lay leadership and our staff. Our Executive Committee has been working overtime. Perhaps I should amend “overtime” to “all the time.” I do not know how they do it. And our staff. Working from home but carrying on. Because we have a lot of work to do. Kim is taking care of our building every day. The Cantor has put the entire Religious School on line, and God bless our Religious School teachers, who we will be honoring at our final T’filah this Sunday morning, for all they are doing to teach our children their aleph’s and their bet’s. Bonnie assures that you receive your Shofar Blast every week and the SHOFAR is delivered to your door each month. Jen Casillo continues to connect with our Preschool Students and, because of her magic, we anticipate a huge increase in enrollment for next year.

The ways we have pivoted and adjusted are remarkable. But equally remarkable is this: life continues. We continue to build for the future. Our Building Committee is hard at work. Our Capital Campaign Committee is hard at work. TBT was just awarded a $30,000 grant from the Community Grant for the Jewish Elderly from the Jewish Foundation of Greater New Haven, to start a new project of connecting our elder generations and our younger ones, a 2-Way L’Dor Vador.

We are preparing to say a fond farewell to Cantor Stanton who has touched all of us these past two years with his kind soul and majestic voice. And we have hired a new Cantor who is bursting with energy and eagerness to meet all of her new B’nai Mitzvah Students and to bring her vision to our Religious School and her spirituality to the bima.

Life continues. So in many ways, this evening is a celebration. It is a celebration of fortitude, of compassion, of determination and proof that ‘coming together’ continues to be at the heart of what we do as a synagogue. We do indeed come together in these unique times as we have done in the past and will continue to do in the future. And so we count our blessings.

Adonai Eloheinu, Adonai our God, we ask for your blessings upon this House of Hope. Bless us with safety and with love. Bless us with patience and with hope, bless us with good health and with peace.

Ken yihi ratzon (Let it be so),
Rabbi Offner

President's Column

Shalom.

May is normally a time to treasure the outdoors, when we enjoy the warm air and, on Memorial Day weekend, kick off summer fun. Instead, we’re in our own silos, our bunkers – our homes. We do get to treasure time with family, including children home from college (even if they would much prefer to still be there!). And there’s something spiritual about taking a daily long walk with a family member, emerging from our indoor lives for those brief moments of freedom and sunshine.

TBT also gives us those moments of connection to our community, even if it’s through our new means of connecting to the world – the internet and Zoom. Our weekly Shabbat services to view online, our interactive live Oneg gatherings and Torah Study group, weekly Mindfulness & Meditation, our renewed Religious School lessons, and the wonderful Passover Second Seder that over 50 TBT families attended have become part of the new rhythm of our lives.

Soon, our online experience will include the TBT Annual Meeting. Yes, like clockwork, virus or no virus, we will have our Annual Meeting, just not in the Social Hall. Through your computers, we can hear all about the wonderful things happening at TBT, celebrate our accomplishments, honor the Friesner Scholarship winner (and hear a report from last year’s winner), understand the TBT budget for the next year, and elect next year’s leaders who will help to continue to make TBT the beacon of Jewish life on the shoreline. Hope to “see” you all via Zoom on Thursday, May 14, from 7:00-8:30 p.m. The only thing we can’t give you is the pre-meeting nosh!

Although, that reminds me that TBT’s Helping Hands is still there for everyone who needs a person to talk to or assistance in shopping or other needs. Just reach out to the TBT Office.

- Jeff Babbin

Rabbi's Column - May 2020

Dear Friends,

We are getting good at this. Or not. It has been a good six weeks of isolation now. I recall the first moments as we made step-by-step adjustments to our lifestyles. I think back to the month of February – very easy for me to remember the entire month as Nancy and I were in Florida for the month. It was a time of innocence or maybe better referred to as naiveté. A virus was launching itself to land all over the world but we sat unknowingly in restaurants and at concerts and in places of worship – gathering, as is human to do.

And then came March. I remember those first ‘elbow bumps.’ We thought it was funny. Awkward. Silly even. But we played along and bumped elbows. Would that we could today. Because I had been away in February, we had a huge March line-up of special events and activities at the synagogue. Friday the 13th was to be Men’s Club Shabbat. The guys had prepared diligently. They knew their parts, had prepared the Torah reading, the d’var Torah and all the readings. It wasn’t until the afternoon of the 13th that we started wondering whether we should be gathering together to bring in that Shabbat. We cancelled Men’s Club Shabbat. And the rest is history. The public schools announced that they would not be returning to school that Monday. We cancelled Religious School for that Sunday.

Six weeks later, we have adjusted. We are living our lives remotely. But we are connecting. Even in profound ways.

I am so proud of our synagogue: the staff, the leadership, the volunteers, the members. So much courage. So much vision, And at this Bet Tikvah, this House of Hope, so much hope.

We have managed to turn our entire synagogue into a virtual reality. We have meaningful programs each and every week: Shabbat Services, a live pop-in Oneg that you can come to anytime and schmooze and visit and connect with your TBT family. We even have a Meditation Group that meets successfully on-line! We have assured that all our members have food and masks. We celebrated Passover beautifully with a Zoom Seder (some call it the Zeder), and we put kosher Passover meals complete with all items for your Seder plate, right into the trunks of your cars so you could observe Passover and gain strength from our Jewish traditions.

We have also celebrated births and mourned those who have passed away. More than anything at all, we have honored life. And we will continue to do so because that is what we do.

Today, more than ever, the synagogue has proven its value. Hold it fast. Hold on tight. We are in for a long ride, but we are in it together. And that is precious and priceless.

May God bless you all,
Rabbi Offner