Rabbi's Column February 2020

We have the extraordinary opportunity to have the director of the film “From Cairo to the Cloud” join us at TBT as our Scholar-in-Residence this year.

Michelle Paymar is an award winning filmmaker whose credits include documentaries that have appeared on NBC, ABC, CBS and PBS. Earlier films include her pioneering AIDS documentary, “For Our Lives,” and “Sippie,” a documentary (co-directed by Roberta Grossman) about blues artist Sippie Wallace.

“From Cairo to the Cloud” documents the discovery of the Cairo Geniza (a geniza is a receptacle for holy Jewish texts) and its subsequent safeguarding in ’The Cloud’ by a tenacious group of scholars. The Cairo Geniza revolutionized our understanding of Jewish history and illuminated a thousand years of vibrant Jewish life in the heart of the Islamic world.

There is so much to learn from the documents and from the filmmaker. We get to do both at our Scholar-in-Residence Weekend, March 20 -21, 2020.

To a great weekend of discovery!
- Rabbi Offner

President's Column January 2020

Shalom.

Hanukkah came late, having just ended at sundown on December 30. I can remember one year getting to light Hanukkah candles even on New Year’s Eve. But it is a funny thing to say that the Jewish holidays are “early” or “late.” Yes, we talk about how the past High Holidays came late. But, of course, the Jewish holidays come on the same day every year—on the Hebrew calendar.

I bet that many of us have a preference whether holidays come early or late. Yes, we Jews have opinions about everything. Do you like when Rosh Hashanah comes right on the heels of Labor Day, or do you like to have most of September to prepare for them? What about Hanukkah? (Or “Chanukah” as TBT prefers to spell it—again, we all have opinions, even about spelling.) One year not long ago, the first night of Hanukkah was the Wednesday night before Thanksgiving. That was special because we got to celebrate with our out-of-state relatives who usually visit us for Thanksgiving but never get to celebrate Hanukkah with us. Yet, there are those who much prefer Hanukkah, like this past one, starting around Christmas, so shopping is in sync with what many Americans call the “holiday season.” Yet, that poses its own difficulties. We just had our annual TBT brisket and latkes Hanukkah dinner on Friday, December 20, two nights before the actual start of the holiday, because we knew that if we waited until Friday, December 27, many families would be away. That’s the problem—we celebrate our Jewish holidays on one calendar while living our school and work lives around a different calendar.

How do you react when Hanukkah is over by the first week of December and well-meaning friends and co-workers wish you Happy Holidays or even Happy Hanukkah at the “holiday party?” Just nod and say thanks, or say thanks but gently remind them your holiday is long over? And what about the TV stations that throughout December (regardless of when Hanukkah falls in the month) display a Christmas tree and Hanukkah menorah on their Seasons Greetings message to viewers? Personally, if they need to greet viewers and display the tree, I’d just as soon they not bother with the menorah. It feels strained and not real, even if well-meaning. Do they wish us a Happy Passover in the spring, with a logo of matzo or a Seder plate, as that’s a more important holiday in our religion? Well, that’s my opinion. Yours might be entirely different, which of course is fine.

I spent my elementary school years in a town and school with very few Jews. I distinctly remember in 5th grade when I and my friend Stan (who, incidentally, introduced me to my wife Marlene 19 years later) were asked to go explain Hanukkah to a class of 2nd graders. I suppose it was good to do so, although it also gave me the sense of being different, an outsider explaining my alien culture. You can imagine my shock when, one December soon after that, I happened to be in Great Neck, Long Island (yes, where Rabbi Offner grew up) and saw Hanukkah displays in all the store windows. I couldn’t believe such a place existed.

Oh, and speaking of early or late: It’s never the wrong time and never too late to contribute to the TBT Annual Fund. It supports our vibrant synagogue and makes it possible for TBT to open our doors to everyone in the shoreline Jewish community.

- Jeff Babbin

Rabbi's Column January 2020

Dear Friends,

January is the coldest month of the year if not, thankfully, the snowiest. I look at the month ahead of us and, with that chill in the air, I look forward to warming up the weeks ahead with special projects and gatherings at TBT.

The first activity that I want to highlight is a very easy way for you to do a huge mitzvah. The State of Israel is preparing right now to host the World Zionist Congress, and your vote can make a real impact on shaping the Israel of the future to be pluralistic and egalitarian. Let me explain:

The World Zionist Congress has been meeting ever since Theodore Herzl established it in Basel, Switzerland in 1897. The Congress is comprised of worldwide Jewry and the United States has a large presence. If we can ALL vote for Reform Jewish delegates to be seated at the Congress, it could mean as much as $20 million dollars slated for projects in Israel that benefit a liberal expression of Judaism and allows for the flourishing of Reform Judaism in Israel. We can do this! Please make a commitment to vote – it will be made simple for you to do so by our fearless ARZA-WZC co-chairs, Mara Weissman and Andrea San Marco. They will be putting ballot information in your inboxes when the time comes to be able to vote. Just be on the lookout and promise to make a wonderful difference for Israel.

Other activities I look forward to in January include teaching a Lunch & Learn, this time on Tuesdays from 12:30 PM - 2 PM with a focus on the book of Genesis and how the actual Hebrew words of the text reveal its meaning.

I also want to mention the Gamerman Film Festival which usually warms us up in January but has moved this year to the month of March. Stay tuned.

The month of January coincides this year with the Hebrew month of Tevet. You may recognize in that Hebrew name the word “Tov” which means “good.” The rabbis consider Tevet to be a good month because, since it is so cold, it causes people to want to seek warmth by being close to one another.

By all means, let us warm each other up during this otherwise cold month of January.

L’Shalom,
Rabbi Offner

President's Column December 2019

Each year at this time, we ask that you extend your generosity to assure the continued wellbeing of Temple Beth Tikvah by making a donation to our Annual Fund.

TBT’s mission is to be a vibrant, inclusive Reform Jewish community. To fulfill that mission and include all area families seeking a Jewish home at TBT, we must come together to support our synagogue. The full cost of running TBT is approximately $2,900 per member household. The Annual Fund provides essential support for the day-today operations of our synagogue, critical resources to help offset further increases in our dues, and support for Jews who live in our area but who otherwise could not be a part of our family.

Thanks to your generosity in 5779 (last year), over one-third of our member households contributed over $75,000 with donations ranging from $10,000 to $18. If we increase our participation to even one-half of our member households, the synagogue and the shoreline Jewish community will greatly benefit from your generosity. Please join me in that effort.

Every contribution makes a difference to the financial health of our synagogue.

Please make your contribution to the 5780 TBT Annual Fund in an amount that is both meaningful and possible for you; every gift matters, regardless of size. The Torah reminds us each to give according to our ability. If you can, please consider a donation whether it is $18, $118, $1,800 or more. If you can afford more, please make as generous a donation as is possible for you. A form is enclosed in this Shofar for your convenience. You can also make your donation online at www.tbtshoreline.org.

Remember: All donations to the Annual Fund are tax deductible. Your generosity makes a difference!

Thank you for your dedication to our TBT community and for your gift to the Annual Fund. On behalf of our Board of Directors, myself, and my family, we wish you a sweet, healthy, and productive new year.

G’mar Tov.
Jeff Babbin

Rabbi's Column December 2019

Mondays are my day off. I love Mondays. And no, it’s not exactly because Monday’s are my day off but rather, it is because of what I choose to do with my day off. Every Monday since he has been born, Nancy and I ‘grandmasit’ for our grandson who is now 8 years old. It is the joy of our lives, but don’t take my word for it – just ask any grandparent who gets to take care of their grandchild(ren) and you will know how true it is.

It is a blessing for so many reasons. It is a blessing to be able to help your children, even when they themselves are adults. It is a blessing to be needed and to be able to deliver on that need. It is a blessing to be helpful. And of course, the obvious, it is a blessing to be able to develop a precious relationship with your grandchild.

It is so important for people who are on the older end of the lifecycle to be able to interact with young children. You don’t have to be a grandparent to do so. It sure is one of the precious gifts of being a part of Temple Beth Tikvah. It is home for people of every age and therefore we all have ‘grandchildren’ and ‘grandparents’ right here, even if we don’t have literal grand-family, or if our own grand-family is geographically far away.

It makes me want our children to be able to better interact with our elders, and it makes me want our elders to be better integrated into our programming for children.

We see it at services. Remember the High Holidays? (Not that long ago!) Surely one of the highlights is when the children come up onto the bima and sing “Oseh Shalom.” I don’t think there is a dry eye in the house! All of our elders are enchanted. Our kids are giving them a gift beyond their awareness.

That gift doesn’t have to happen just once a year.

It’s simple. Just consider these options. If you are an adult who is not busy raising your own children, just let me know if you would like to be a “grand-sitter.” Alternatively, if you are a person without any elders in your life, let me know if you would like to strike up a friendship with someone who might be a generation ahead of you.

I am a great matchmaker, and these kind of matches are the best of all.

L’Shalom,
Rabbi

President's Column November 2019

Reprint of the President's Talk from the Kol Nidre Service:

Shana Tova.
This is my third year speaking to you on the High Holidays as TBT’s President. I’ve had to think — what fresh ideas can I come up with that aren’t a repeat of previous years? But then I remembered that this is Kol Nidre. We repeat the same prayer three times in one night. And, of course, we repeat the same prayers every year on the High Holidays. We Jews revel in tradition and repetition. It gives us comfort, renews us, and inspires us to do better, each and every year. It is what binds us together as a community, here at TBT and with Jews around the world.

Your membership at TBT, also renewed every year, is another tradition that binds us together. I cannot repeat enough how grateful I am for your continued membership. Membership is the backbone of our synagogue. It’s what keeps us upright and sustains us. Whether you’re at TBT every week or just once a year, your membership is an expression of commitment to TBT’s mission, to everything we do to maintain a Jewish presence on the shoreline. That includes being ambassadors to the greater community; actively participating in interfaith cooperation; and promoting social justice. It’s about maintaining the roof over our own heads here at 196 Durham Road but also about helping others, as with our participation in Raise the Roof, the shoreline’s affiliate of Habitat for Humanity, building homes for families in need and creating goodwill in the greater community. What we do here is thanks to your membership and your support.

Sometimes, sitting in the sanctuary, I’ll see a prayer in our Siddur that reminds me of TBT’s mission. One prayer reads: “Have we not all one Parent? Did not one God create us? This is the call from Sinai: There shall be one law, for the citizen and the stranger in your midst.”

A second prayer says, “I have asked of God to dwell in God’s House …, and to gaze in delight at God’s Temple.” Well, I do gaze in delight at this temple, the building, and all we do in it.

Now, here’s a third saying, but I didn’t find it in the prayer book. This was written by the wise sage, Mick Jagger. Mick sang: “You can’t always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, well, you might find you get what you need.”

Because it’s not in the prayer book, I can take issue with that statement. I think we can do better. If we come together as a community at TBT, we can get both what we need and what we want. As we proceed with our renovation project, we will have comfortable, safe, accessible, and well-maintained facilities for years to come. And we can go beyond that. We can have a Jewish home that invites and welcomes all of us to worship, study, and celebrate together. An inspiring, sun-lit sanctuary. A vibrant social hall with a covered outdoor veranda that connects us to the beauty of our surroundings.

I am hoping to see many of you at the special event we are holding at TBT the evening of Saturday, November 9. We have mailed invitations to bring all of the adults in the TBT community together to learn about and celebrate our future while continuing the traditions of our past. We will gather at 6:00 p.m. to hear about our capital campaign, entitled “Building Community.” We will talk about the campaign’s success to date and how each and every one of us can build on that success over the next year. We will unveil the final designs for enhancing our beautiful home. And once the talking is over, we will celebrate with a delightful Kosher Chinese dinner and festive music. This will be a memorable night to start a memorable next phase of TBT’s life serving the Jewish shoreline community.

So many of you have already joined us on this campaign journey by serving on committees and attending congregational meetings to plan for our future. November 9th will be a time to bring all of us together in one place, at one time, to acknowledge our accomplishments and learn of the tasks ahead.

Louis Brandeis, the first Jewish Supreme Court Justice, once said, “Most of the things worth doing in the world were declared impossible before they were done.” With your help and participation, we will reach our goals and, one day, look back with satisfaction and pride for what we have accomplished.

On behalf of our Board of Directors, myself, and my family, we wish you a sweet, healthy, and productive new year.
G’mar Tov.
Jeff Babbin

Rabbi's Column November 2019

Dear Friends,

I addressed the issue of anti-Semitism in my sermon on Rosh Hashana morning. I noted that anti-Semitic incidents are on an historic rise in this country and all over the world. We can’t delude ourselves…. that means right here in our sweet Shoreline home as well. One sermon is not enough to counter and respond to this terrible phenomenon. That is why we are committed to addressing the issue of anti-Semitism and of all kinds of hatred directed against the ‘other.’ At the same time we must work together with other faith communities to foster the bonds of mutual respect.

Two important events are upcoming in November. We are most honored to have Tom Scarice, the Superintendent of the Madison Schools (pictured, right), coming to TBT to address important issues about how we teach our children in these difficult times.

I am also honored to participate in an important interfaith program with an Imam and a Priest that is coordinated by the Foote School and open to all.

Please join us for these events and commit to being a part of the solution when it comes to addressing anti-Semitism, racism, Islamophobia, and other hatreds.

L’Shalom,
Rabbi Offner

President's Column October 2019

Shalom. As I’m writing this, the outcome of the Israeli election remains too close to call, and there is much uncertainty which party or parties will govern as a majority and who will be named Prime Minister to lead the government. We are all drawn to follow the events of another country halfway around the world (well, not quite that far.) I can’t think of any other foreign election that holds my attention (and that of many of my fellow American Jews) as much as an Israeli election—although the craziness of Brexit has lifted U.K. politics to the level of a gripping soap opera. It is remarkable how we can feel that an election in the tiny and still relatively new country of Israel can have such an impact on our lives.

It can be exhausting to closely follow the U.S. presidential race with the crowded Democratic primary field and then add the Israeli election on top of that. Yet, the fact that there are choices, and that outcomes are actually in doubt, highlights the beauty of democracy. Change can be made by the people if they want it, or they can reject if they like the status quo (and not just because some dictator imposes it). We should be thankful for our political institutions and express our appreciation by staying informed and exercising our vote. I am glad that Israel, somewhat unique in that part of the world, also continues to value the ability to vote. Sure there are challenges, in both Israel and in the U.S. (after all, we wouldn’t have needed the Voting Rights Act if things always went smoothly in this country). So long as fundamental values are respected and continue to be upheld, I am hopeful that the people in both the United State and Israel will find the right paths for their countries to shine brightly in the years to come.

Jeff Babbin

Rabbi's Column October 2019

OUR HIGH HOLY DAY SEASON CONTINUES…..

YOM KIPPUR: Return, Reflect, Recharge
Kol Nidrei: Tuesday, October 8, 8pm
Morning Service: Wednesday, October 9, 10am
Afternoon Service: Wednesday, October 9, 3:30pm
Break-the-Fast: Wednesday, October 9, ~6:45pm

SUKKOT: Celebrate our Autumnal Bounty Shake the Lulav
Enjoy the Open Sky
Wednesday, October 16 Sukkot Dinner on the Deck and in the Sukkah, 5:15pm
Sukkot Service: 6pm

SIMCHAT TORAH: Unfurl the Torah! Dance with the Torah! Our energetic capstone to the High Holy Days. Sunday, October 20 Simchat Torah Service: 6-7pm
Festive Make-Your-Own Caramel Apples Oneg: 7pm

President's Column September 2019

Shalom.

TBT is already gearing up for the end of summer and start of fall. The clergy, choir, and musicians are hard at work to prepare a meaningful and memorable High Holiday experience. The religious school has the teachers it needs and is getting ready to welcome the students back. The TBT Preschool (just renamed from the Nursery School) is excited to be opening its doors soon for another year—and it still has openings if you or a friend is looking for an enriching experience for a young child. And in September we return to our regular, non-summer Shabbat rhythm of 7:15pm Friday services, except for the 6:00pm First Friday service that starts with a cozy “preneg.”

The Fall will also be a time of renewal for TBT. You will see work being done on the first phase of our renovation project, to expand our parking capacity. And there will be congregational meetings to keep you all informed of our progress and to share ideas as we move forward together.

Looking forward to a wonderful year ahead. Thank you for your membership and being part of the TBT community.

- Jeff